The Introduction Section below will help you begin to trust the system and feel comfortable with how it works. By providing some one. background information about yourself and by beginning to identify the issues of your addiction we can start to focus on your specific recovery. We have found that by writing out your thoughts, that patterns are revealed and addressed far more clearly. For you to get the most out of this process, please be as detailed as you can be. The best guideline to use is that if it comes to your mind and then write it down as it may well be useful. We would also like to take this opportunity to remind you that any information you share with us here is bound by our “Contract of Confidentiality” with you and will never be released outside of this process. We never share anything you share with anyone or anything or anybody. These Stages are to be completed in your own time, in the correct sequence, accurately and as honestly as possible. The more detail you add, the better the outcome.
You should be completing one part or stage each time you've read out the previous one. The purpose of the stages is to bring about specific changes in your thinking and therefore allow you to make small changes in your behaviour, which will bring about a successful change in your drinking or drug consumption problems. Our experience and evidence shows us that completing all of the parts, from all of the stages, within the instructed program of Sober-Services maximizes your chances for permanent healthy change. Sober Service's online Sober Coaching has proven to lead to your success if you take it seriously and complete all the tasks within your time. We've broken it down into 7 separate stages. The stages have been broken down further into 1, 2 or 3 parts, making it easier to work through and digest along the way.
This part is about permitting you to explain the situation as you see it. It's about allowing you to open up and reveal some truths about your historical addictive behaviours. There is therapeutic value in you writing it down and you may well begin to feel slightly better, but most important of all is we want you to become accustomed to writing and working on yourself and to trust the process.
This part is about you beginning to believe in this sober coaching and your ability to heal through it. By following the directions you're going to heal and recover.
In this part, we'll be helping you to ask yourself to explain how uncomfortable you've become. You're encouraged to feel and express the pain you may be experiencing as a result of your relationship with your addiction. We'll also be encouraging you to realise just how much you've lost through your addiction.
In this part, we'll be helping you realise just how untenable life has become whilst you've been attempting to maintain your relationship with your active addiction. We'll begin introducing the understanding that you need to have around the topics of choice and control, or rather your lack of ability to choose not to, and the loss of ability to control yourself once you've started.
This Stage is about your newfound hope for the future and hope for the change that you're about to go through. This Stage continues to be challenging and to ask questions you may feel uncomfortable answering but follow the process. This is one of the longer Parts of your sober coaching.
This part is about highlighting to you your patterns of repeating behaviour. This will help you to break these routines in the future. This part will also expose to you the myth that many people with addictive disease tell themselves - that their addiction doesn't affect anyone else and that it's no one else's business. The addict’s mantra that you may well be telling yourself is "Why should anyone else be concerned with me, when it's only me that's affected?" or "Why don't you leave me alone and mind your own business?" or "I’m not hurting anyone else!" The addicted person has no idea of the impact that their addiction is having on the lives of those around them. This needs to be exposed and addressed. This part is long and goes deep to the core of your addiction and spiritual damage. This is the longest part of your sober coaching.
This part follows on from Stage 3 and further reinforces the previous topics around your lack of control and lack of choice. This part allows you to see with your own eyes the true nature of the problem. It goes further around the issue of you becoming spiritually unbalanced, e.g. selfish, self-centred, self-obsessed, low self-esteem, insecure, etc as a result of your addiction. We can call this the Spiritual Malady.
This part brings the remainder of the struggles you've been reminiscing over to a close, with a turn towards your future. The process for change and lasting recovery really accelerates here.
This is the stage that can really bring about positive long-lasting change. This stage is a personal soul searching self-examination into your previous behaviours, revealing where your thoughts have led you to actions which have then led you to engage in your addiction to overcome any overwhelming feelings, both positive and negative ones – e.g. we drink to celebrate, we drink to commiserate, and when we're bored we drink to alleviate. We also examine further the spiritual aspect of the solution here, as a way of balancing out any residual negative behaviours and to act as a useful tool with which to live a better life generally, adopting the attitude of "Do The Right Thing". The results and motivation that you get from this stage will directly correlate to the level of honesty you've used throughout this process.
This part is about accepting that our future lies upon an understanding of spiritual principles and requires a massive turnaround from our previous selfish, self-centred and ego-centric behaviours. We'll be learning how to tap into these new behaviours and how to adopt them as standard default values. This will permit us to avoid acting out on those debilitating thoughts and actions.
The main body of work upon yourself has been completed and now the biggest shifts will be beginning to take shape, probably without you even noticing them. Now is the time to fully cement down your new foundations and anchor in new patterns of behaviours. Please know that due to the sensitivity of this subject that you do not need to read out anything you’re uncomfortable with or feel unsafe sharing in group.
This part is about fully understanding the tough lessons from the previous parts and setting them up for the actual process of making things right. Please know that due to the sensitivity of this subject that you do not need to read out anything you’re uncomfortable with or feel unsafe sharing in group.
This part is about living in the solution. This part reveals some of the disciplines that are used to maintain a healthy recovery and a happy life going forwards into the future.
This part is about truly fixing into place your (new) selflessness and gener behaviours as a permanent move away from the selfishness and greed of you behaviour whilst in the grips of your addiction This part emphasises how to maintain your long-lasting recovery.
This final part is about the bigger picture, the future and about realising that "It's no about you!".
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Thank you for making a difference to the world, whilst taking care of yourself and those you love. The world is a better place now you’re in fit Spiritual condition and healthy Recovery. Kind love and our sincere congratulations, the whole of the Sober-Services.com family.
